Dealing with Grief and Fears

The intensity and frequency of threatening events over the past few months has had a profound impact on me. Collectively, we seem to be humming at a higher level of stress that reflects a growing feeling that the world we once thought predicable…

My Mom, who had been diagnosed with dementia, was leaning up against the sink in the bathroom. Her soapy hands were under running water. I was reaching around her trying to gently use a nail brush to clean under her nails…

Lately, my friends have been decluttering their places and spaces. Good for them! Breaking FREE from our old stuff isn’t easy but it feels great when we do. It feels like a slice of freedom. Everything from closets and garages…

Women are more invested in their relationships than men, on average. So, it makes sense that we would hurt more when our man leaves us or dies. Many are the times I’ve been almost haunted by memories of my husband, torn apart…

In memory of: Sandra “Tee-San” Williams. I made your favorite tomato soup today. Just the right sweetness, a little bit of spice and chunky, just like you like it. I reached for the phone to see if you were home so I could bring you some, and it hit me again. You are not in […]

Is obsessive thinking keeping you up at night? Maybe you wake up at 3 am and you keep thinking the same thoughts over and over, imagining the worst-case scenario and you can’t get back to sleep. You might have uncontrollable anxiety, your stomach…

Fear is a natural part of life. It can creep up slowly, or pop up suddenly, sometimes when we least expect it. That sudden feeling of uncertainty can jar us, when we’re used to being so comfortable in our own skin. But it’s important we recognize…

Losing a spouse is a challenging and transformative experience. Your partner’s death can reshape your life. I get it. It happened to me when my late husband, Tom, passed 17 years ago. His death was the most devastating event I ever faced…

A book about a death doula sounds pretty morbid. But I’m here to say that The Collected Regrets of Clover by Mikki Brammer is anything but. It is an uplifting read with themes and wisdom of living well abounding throughout. Yes, there is much to say…

Most of the time we are on autopilot, thinking the same anxiety-producing negative thoughts over and over. If your automatic thinking is primarily negative, you’ll be filled with anxiety and overwhelm. What if you could sleep through the night…