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Growing Old, Growing Free

By Lily Bradshaw July 05, 2024 Senior Living

The freedom getting older brings can be exhilarating. We have worked all our lives, maybe raised a family, cared for others. We have cooked, cleaned, taxied, wiped noses, kissed scrapped knees, and hugged away tears. It has been a joy, a real pleasure, but now that we are older, we have a little time to do things for ourselves. And what wonderful adventures there are to be had!

Three years ago, I moved back to England and couldn’t believe the price of property. It had truly exploded in the two (pandemic) years I had been away, and I found myself priced out of the market. It was a little scary, and for a while, I was wondering whether I should have come back.

Serendipity

I decided to temporarily rent a little holiday shack (aptly named Serendipity) on the beach for a season, and absolutely loved it! Breakfast on the veranda, lunch on the beach, and dinner on the barbecue, what more could anyone want!?

From my little wooden veranda, I could hear the sound of the waves as they lapped against the shore. If I stood on the sand dune, I could see the moon reflecting its golden glow on the ripples of the water. I witnessed magnificent sunrises, and sunsets so vibrant they took my breath away. I had my little dog for company and life was pretty perfect.

Everything Changed

Sadly, it didn’t last long as four months later, I lost her. She was 14 and had always been active and happy, but it was a huge blow, and for the first time in my life, I felt lonely. I stopped going to the beach as it was filled with people playing with their dogs, which meant I missed talking with others. It was so hard, and I didn’t know what to do.

One night, feeling a little sorry for myself, and after a couple of glasses of wine, I found myself booking a cruise to Norway. I always thought I wasn’t a ‘cruise’ type of person. How wrong I was! I absolutely loved it and, although I didn’t know it then, this was the start of an adventure that saw me solo travelling to many incredible places and having the time of my life.

A few weeks later, I took another cruise, this time to the Mediterranean, visiting France, Spain, Portugal and some Mediterranean islands. Slowly, it dawned on me that this is what I wanted to do, and the following year I embarked on a challenge – to travel full time for one year, for the same price (or hopefully less) than renting a property and living in England.

Setting Myself a Huge Challenge

My travels took me to much of Europe, including the beautiful island of Madeira. I swam with turtles in Barbados, danced in the rain in The Rain Forest. I stayed at a Buddhist monastery, cooking and cleaning for the Monks, swam in The Blue Lagoon in Iceland, slid down a mountain in a basket and drank from an ice glass in an ice bar in Norway.

I have met so many wonderful people and had the most incredible time and I wouldn’t have missed it for the world. Life is a great adventure and just because we are older doesn’t mean we are not a part of it. In fact, with our wisdom and experience we are a huge part of it.

If you would like to read a little more of my adventures the first three chapters of my book, Growing Old, Growing Free are on my blog. The entire book is available here.

Let’s Start a Conversation:

Have you ever had a big adventure? Would you solo travel for a year? Where is your dream destination?

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Sam Mast

How do seniors over 75 begin with some disabilities?

lilybradshaw88

Hi Sam, Thanks for joining the conversation. I have met many people over 75 and people with disabilities while travelling. Most seem to travel by cruise, ship and their needs seem to be well catered for. There are companies that supply motorised wheel chairs which you pick up at the port. Lily x

Beth

hey, Sam, i’m coming into a phase where my mobility needs help. i’m looking at a scooter to open up airports again (they have types that go through security, and i have an out of state adult daughter) and a sport wheelchair to keep me active. i don’t know your disabilities, but i hope you find answers that are right for you to keep living your best life :-) …. sometimes it’s challenging, i know. i don’t travel like this article, though. i’m more a day trip kind of gal. i like staying closer to home any more, having lived out of the country for a time, i’m happy with Home. perfect? no, let’s keep working on it, but i’m a Home Gurl any more. best of luck, Sam

JCL

How lovely for you that you had the resources to travel. Unfortunately there are so many people in this world, not only seniors, that can’t even afford food, we work all our lives and we are not appreciated by our employers or anyone else pensions have gone by the wayside
im healthy so that is a true blessing but don’t have the luxury of traveling in the states let alone the EU or world cruises
its a rather sad state of affairs for everyone in this world and really don’t see things improving
peace love and blessings to all

lilybradshaw88

Hi JCL, thanks for joining the conversation. I completely understand what you are saying and I wish with all my heart things were different. Have a lovely Sunday Lily x

Beth

yeah, this is a high dollar article for me, too. i’m more a park with my pup kinda gal, and a tank of gas lasts me two weeks, cuz i’m close to some beautiful areas (thank Gawd) — my gratitude list usually starts with air, food water, housing. this keeps me grateful all day; i know it could be so much harder. even with developing mobility issues, i’m finding answers that fit …. FINALLY – lol – fair wind following seas :-)

Mary Smith (not my real name)

This is good for some, but when you live your life, safe do what needs to be done, then you let someone in your life, they move in, they get sick, you care for them by yourself 24/7/365, after they pass, his ungrateful kids, sue you, yet he paid nothing to live in your house.

lilybradshaw88

Hello Mary, Thank you for joining the conversation. I am really sorry to hear this. I hope the next months and years are a little kinder to you. Lily x

Maureen

I am so sorry this happened to you. What I’ve learned in my older age is that we all make choices. Somewhere along the line, you made a choice to stay and care for him. It may have worked for you at the time, but now you regret it. Life is full of choices. We do the best we can. Hopefully, you still have years left to enjoy life to its fullest! Find something for YOU.

Beth

i think, too, when i’m in a mode to ‘help’, i forget to help myself. boundaries are difficult to learn, but once learned, there’s a lot more wiggle room

Beth

that’s so messed up, Mary. i hope you get a levelled out situation soon.

jennifer

This is such a common account of women’s lives.

Mar

So how did you pack for that 1 year trip and where do you do laundry ?

lilybradshaw88

Hello Mar, Thanks for joining the conversation.Most of the time I would go for 2 or 3 weeks at a time and pop back for a day or two, though I tried to minimise this as, if I had to stay in hotels, it was very expensive. When I was on cruise ships they had laundries, the same for renting apartments and camp sites. When I stayed at the monastery I washed by hand ( but they had a spinner!)

Liz P.

There is a wonderful blog called Meandering Minimalists that talks about theirpacking and travl around the world for more than two years. They are a couple, however, so it’s not the same as Lily’s wonderful blog. Still they have many good tips and resources.

Leslie Johns

No big adventures… but I would love to travel solo! I traveled to a few places…. But not solo… my dream destination is the Maldives

lilybradshaw88

Hi Leslie, thanks for joining the conversation. The Maldives sounds amazing, but I have never been! I hope you get to have your dream very soon :) Lily x

Kay

I would love to see the Maldives. It’s on my list.
Lily, you have inspired me and given me courage.
I just finished reading the three chapters on your blog and my suitcase is already half packed.😆 I’m 62, had my daughter when I was 45, but she’s off to college in a couple of months and now I’m ready to start a new and exciting chapter. Thanks for sharing your story!

Liz P.

I love solo travel as long as it is in safe places. But I did have a bad experience once (in the Middle East) and will not travel in that region solo again. Europe, Asia, South America, Australia? Yes! I’m sure there are safer and less safe places in every region, but it is hard to know as a first-time explorer to a region which places to steer clear of, however.

lilybradshaw88

Hi Liz, thanks for joining in. I completely agree with you, safety has to be the number one thing while travelling so doing research before you go is really important.Have a lovely Sunday! Lily x

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The Author

Lily Bradshaw has had an interesting and varied career. Twenty years working as a psychotherapist and part time lecturer, followed by 20 years of writing educational courses. Now she is enjoying semi retirement writing books and articles that interest her, mostly about having fun and enjoying life. She has spent the last 2 years travelling solo.

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