As we age, our bodies undergo natural changes. In fact, change is an immutable law of nature. With something so integral and natural to our life as change, why do so many women have difficulty loving their body as they age?
And where do our inner and outer challenges with age and more specifically, the idea of what constitutes physical beauty after 60, come from?
In the fifth of an eight-part article and video series on “Being Enough After 60”, we will answer these questions as we explore 10 steps to embrace changes to your body.
When you look at how society perpetuates outdated and limiting standards on what constitutes beauty is it any wonder why so many women feel pressure to maintain an unrealistic youthful appearance as they age?
For years, millions of women have based their sense of self-worth on how others physically perceive them. Of course, there is nothing wrong with taking time to look and feel your best. The mounting stress of not feeling beautiful enough, however, takes an emotional toll on your well-being.
Facing challenges to our physical appearance after 60 shows up differently for each of us. Being aware of where and why you may unknowingly be dismissing your natural, physical beauty is essential in overcoming unhealthy and unfulfilling beliefs.
Here, then, are six common reasons women over 60 find it challenging to love their bodies:
These aforementioned challenges can manifest in conversations, interactions, and personal reflections. They are also exacerbated by the volume of physical and age-related shaming that takes place in the online world.
All of this makes it more important than ever for women over 60 to actively address and manage these feelings from a place of honesty and vulnerability.
Here are 10 empowering steps each of us can take to embrace the beautiful woman we are today and actively boost our self-confidence from within:
Few of us have were taught early on how to navigate changes in our life through self-love and increased self-esteem. This is particularly true for how we face the ever-changing nature of our physical body.
It’s crucial to remember that everyone’s experience with their body is unique, and some women may not feel these challenges as intensely as others. Wherever you may feel you are with embracing changes to your body, overcoming the challenges of body issues involves cultivating:
It is also helpful to involve support from loving and supportive family, friends, communities, therapists, and mentors who understand and appreciate the value of physical beauty as we age.
Embracing changes in your physical appearance is a life-long journey of self-acceptance and self-love. By expanding your awareness of where you may feel challenged, applying these ten steps and engaging in your own unique approaches to loving your body after 60, you can navigate change with grace, resilience, and love.
I invite you to join me in the video where I share a bonus tip about loving your body along with three journal prompts and 10 affirmations to help you integrate what you are learning.
Do you find it difficult to love your body? Are there particular reasons you feel that way? What challenges are you working to overcome so you can love your aging body?
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I love what you wrote and would like to add one thought. It is to stop criticizing yourself and making fun of your sagging arms or breast or whatever you choose to demean. Our bodies are sacred and they are listening to what we say about them
Absolutely agree with you. Remember every morning to look into your mirror, smile at yourself, and say, “I am my own best friend. I came into this world to be myself for that I came.”
My best,
Joanie Marx
Overcoming Body (not Boddy) Issues…incorrect spelling makes me not want to read what is ahead
Thank you for the note, Maria. Yes, spelling mistakes are annoying, but they do show us that no matter how hard we try, we are still not perfect, and we should embrace that. This is also the point of this article, though it pertains to our bodies and not spelling mistakes. Have a beautiful day!
Breathe……….Maria…….♥️
For me, beauty means being healthy and active, and that goes for both men and women. I am shocked, maybe a little naive, when I learn that so many women around me are having or had “work done” on their faces or bodies. It is becoming an epidemic and I am concerned that surgery will have long lasting negative impacts on one’s health in the long term. Surgery is surgery. Our generation of women were raised to equate beauty with success in life. The pretty girls always got the successful men who could provide a privileged life for them. All that has now changed. In today’s society, women have opportunities to make it on their own and men are “accessories” in their life. A great article and well-presented video. Thank you to the author for sharing her wisdom on an important topic
My view on cosmetic surgery is if a woman wants it to feel better about her appearance AND BRINGS OTHER ATTRIBUTES to the table, then Great!. If the ONLY thing she brings to the table are her looks than she will continue to chase her tail.
Dear Joyce,
Thank you for your insight. I have many more videos on my YouTube.com/@joaniemarx that I think you will also like.
My best,
Joanie Marx
It is all about confidence and I thank my late mother for allowing me to be natural all my life. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been told to cut my waist length hair, put on makeup and dress like someone I am not. My mother said ‘you’re beautiful but there is so much more to you!’ from the moment I could talk. I now pass this to my daughters, son and dozen grandchildren. Why waste precious time sitting in the hairdresser or enduring Botox when we can dance, sing, paint, write, learn and love? Have fun, yes! You’re all WONDERFUL as you are and there is so much more to beautiful you!🦋💛🌟
Dear June,
Creating daily joy is essential for all of us. Thank you for your comments.
I have many more videos on my YouTube.com/@joaniemarx channel that you might enjoy.
My best,
Joanie Marx
First, we have to totally banish all of the preconceived notions regarding what beauty is/means that our societal “norms” have force feed us to believe for centuries. Until we do this completely and for good, the mindset of what we perceive it is will continue to torture us. Letting go of what we have been programmed to believe is hard.
Dear Julie,
Being your own best friend is a good start to owning and following your beliefs