What Do Single Men Over 60 Really Want? This Dating Coach’s Advice Will Surprise You! (Video)

What do men over 60 want? For women who have been trying to find that elusive “special someone” for a while, this may seem like an impossible question to answer. After all, for most of our lives, men were simple creatures. Now, as we reach our 50s and 60s, the situation is somewhat more complicated.

To get a view into the male mind after 60, I sat down with dating coach Lisa Copeland for a quick chat. Lisa is a fabulous woman, with a passion for helping women to find quality men. If you have ever noticed that older men are unlikely to make eye contact with you or have felt completely ignored at a dance or party, Lisa thinks she knows why.

What Are Single Men Over 60 Looking for?

In our interview, I asked Lisa this question directly, and she gave me a simple answer. Single men in their 60s are looking for a woman who is feminine and is willing to help them feel like a man. Many women, including myself, spent most of their lives competing with men – at work, in social situations, and even at home.

Now, as we reach our 60s, it’s difficult to put our swords down and just relax a bit. According to Lisa, single men over 60 want women who are in touch with their feminine side. They want encouragement, not criticism. They need confirmation, not competition.

Do Older Men Really Only Want to Date Younger Women?

Lisa and I also discussed the perception that men only want to date younger women. Lisa mentioned that this is often the case, but not for the reasons that many of us assume. Men are not always looking for a younger body to cuddle up next to. More important is the fact that younger women are more willing to show their feminine side to win a man’s heart.

Of course, they don’t have our experience, or our battle scars for that matter, but, this is beside the point. Lisa argues that, if we can connect with our feminine side, we can find a quality man, regardless of who we are competing with.

Lisa is a straight shooter. You may not agree with her on every point. Or, you may decide that she is right, but that finding a partner is just not worth the trouble. But I promise you that her opinions come from interactions with hundreds of older women just like you. As a result, she knows what she’s saying, even if her advice is not always pleasant to hear.

The FAQs Discussed in the Video

Why will men in their 60s do anything humanly possible for their woman?

When men feel manly, they feel the need to keep the woman in their life safe and protected. They like you to see them as your hero.

How could your desire to be a superwoman be impacting your dating life?

Yes, we are independent women and can do everything for ourselves. We’ve definitely earned our independence and equality through the years. But men want to feel needed and like to help when they can. Why not let him do it, even if you know you can?

What are the four magic words that you can say to a man that will change everything?

Men want to help, to fix, to feel needed. There is a way to ask a man to help you. “I need your help” as opposed to “Can you please help me?” can have a huge impact on how he responds to your request.

Why do men and women look in dating profiles and see their grandmother and grandfather?

Let’s face it, none of us are spring chickens and looking at dating profiles of older men can have us questioning how we got to look so old so fast. Women tend to take better care of their youthful appearance by dying their hair and wearing makeup. Men, on the other hand, mostly just accept the grey hair and expect us to accept it as well.

Read How to Write an Unstoppable Senior Dating Profile in 7 Easy Steps.

Why are women more focused on nourishing and men on protecting?

It’s written in our DNA. Men and women have evolved over the years to become more equal, but there still is that need to nourish and protect.

What is the real reason that older men are attracted to younger women?

Younger women may need them more and that makes them feel more manly.

What is the difference between an alpha and beta male… and why does this matter?

An alpha man will be more proactive to keep you safe. You can easily lean into him when you need to and know that he will do everything in his power to keep you protected.

Addressing the Changing Mindset of Older Men in Dating

Have men’s expectations changed in the past few years? 

Absolutely. The traditional expectations surrounding relationships for older men have shifted significantly in recent years. While some men still prefer traditional roles where they feel like the provider and protector, many men over 60 are prioritizing emotional connection, companionship, and shared life experiences over outdated gender dynamics.

This change can be attributed to several factors:  

Longer life expectancy – With people living longer, men are looking for deeper, more meaningful relationships rather than just physical attraction.  

Shifting societal norms – Older men today are more open to emotional vulnerability and equality in relationships than previous generations.  

The impact of online dating – The availability of dating apps has broadened dating pools and encouraged men to reconsider what they want in a partner.  

Divorce rates among older adults – Many men over 60 have gone through divorce and now seek a relationship based on compatibility rather than societal expectations.  

What Are Older Men Prioritizing in Relationships Today?  

According to recent studies and surveys, men over 60 are looking for much more than just a physically attractive partner. Key priorities include:  

Companionship & Friendship  

A 2023 survey by AARP found that more than 70% of men over 60 prioritize companionship over physical attraction. Many older men say they want a woman who feels like a best friend – someone they can travel with, share hobbies with, and enjoy day-to-day life.  

Emotional Intimacy & Support  

Men today are more aware of the importance of emotional well-being in relationships. A 2024 Pew Research study found that men over 60 are more likely than previous generations to seek emotional support and deep conversations in their romantic relationships.  

Shared Interests & Active Lifestyles  

Unlike in the past, when men might have prioritized domestic skills, today’s seniors prefer partners who share their interests – whether it’s hiking, golf, travel, or even learning new skills.  

Active men prefer partners who enjoy staying engaged with life rather than settling into a sedentary routine.  

Many seek women with their passions and independent lives but are open to creating new experiences together.  

Health & Well-being Compatibility  

Health plays a huge role in relationships after 60. A study by the National Institute on Aging found that men are more likely to date women who take care of their health and are committed to maintaining an active lifestyle.  

Flexibility & Easy-Going Attitude  

Many older men have already had long marriages, careers, and family responsibilities. Now, they are looking for drama-free, relaxed relationships.  

A common sentiment among men is: “I just want someone to enjoy life with, without unnecessary stress.”  

They value women who bring positivity, adaptability, and a sense of fun into their lives.  

How Does This Change the Dating Game for Women Over 60? 

Women don’t have to conform to outdated gender roles.  Many men are now comfortable with independent, strong women who have their own careers, passions, and financial stability.  

Authenticity is more attractive than ever.  Instead of trying to fit a “feminine ideal,” women should focus on being themselves – because men are looking for real connection, not perfection.  

Confidence and joy are the biggest attractors. Women who embrace their lives, take care of themselves, and remain curious about the world naturally draw the attention of like-minded men.

Do you wonder where you can meet men your age? Read our article that lets you in on a few tips and tricks about where to meet older men.

Ever wonder what other women in our community think about finding love after 60? Read our article where some of you discuss your experiences and expectations with senior dating. 

Think that you may want to try out online dating? We’ve put together a list of the best dating websites for older people.

Read How to Date Differently in 2025 So You Can Find Love.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you think that the feminist movement disrupted our ability to express our feminine side? Are you dating after 60? What has your experience been? Please watch the video and add your thoughts in the comments section below.