When we see models come down the runway, by design the first thing we notice is what they are wearing. The designers want the clothes to take center stage. That’s why they pick tall, thin and mostly very young models who act as human “hangers.” They don’t get in the way of the design.
This makes it tricky for women our age. Unlike those models, we don’t want to disappear behind our clothes. It’s hard enough getting noticed at all. We want to be seen, but that makes our bodies show up as well. So how do we become visible and still look fashionable and chic?
Quality is one way. Generally, the more expensive the garment the better will be the cut and the fabric. But even buying couture right off the rack won’t guarantee that you will look stylish. It’s the person wearing the garment that makes it look chic – or dumpy.
So, if you are tired of buying new clothes, consider the following:
The “posture of aging” is not inevitable, and it profoundly affects how your clothes drape on you – not to mention how you think of yourself when you catch sight of your reflection in the mirror.
If you’re hunched over or if your shoulders are caved in around your chest, or if your head is thrust forward, your clothes just won’t hang right.
So, establish some good practices now. If you need inspiration, take a look at this wonderful then-85-year-old woman who eliminated her hunched back over a period of a year by doing yoga.
If she can change, you can too. She had a knowledgeable, patient yoga teacher. Maybe you just need a bodyworker who is used to training older women.
Do whatever you can to prevent losing an elegant postural line. A bonus: good posture gives your internal organs room to function optimally. And standing up straight sends a great message: I am here to be seen.
One of the most unflattering ways to walk is duck-toed. Physically, it throws off your knees and/or pelvis. Visually, it makes you look somewhat inelegant. Also, it will wear down your shoes quickly.
When your feet point in the direction you’re walking, you convey an image of someone who knows where they are going and what they are doing.
If you’ve accommodated to walking with your feet pointing out all your life, it will take quite a while to retrain yourself to aim your toes forward. Trying to do it too quickly can make you lose your balance – and that’s a side effect you do not want.
Although, it’s a good practice to gradually become aware of where your toes are pointing and make slight adjustments to correct their position over time.
There’s nothing that makes one look haggard more quickly than hobbling on aching feet. Aching feet are not sexy. But there’s no reason to give up pretty shoes. If you must reassess your shoe wardrobe, then so be it.
Find some pretty flats or lower heels and try pairing them with multiple outfits. The joyful expression on your face when wearing comfortable shoes will instantly elevate your look. And speaking of elevation…
Hanging boobs bring the eye down, instead of up toward your beautiful face. They’re literally a “downer.” If you’re over a size of 32B, you need to wear a bra.
Quite personally, I hate wearing a bra. Whenever possible I wear a shelf bra tank top instead. But there are certain items of clothing that require a bra to make the line of the garment look right.
If you’re under a 32C, Coobies are a great and extremely comfortable alternative – and there are some knockoffs too; all are very inexpensive. Yes, I get that you feel you’ve earned the right to let it all hang out. However, if you want to look chic, draw the eyes of the viewer upward.
If you’ve shrunk a bit – or gained more ground – you need a trip to the tailor. Hanging clothes on a small frame say, “bag lady.” A good tailor can take a much-loved classic – or new – item and make it wearable for many seasons.
A rule of thumb when unsure whether something needs tailoring is to look honestly in the mirror and ask yourself, “Am I wearing this or is it wearing me?”
Good posture, pretty and comfy shoes, staying uplifted and wearing well-tailored clothes will get you noticed and considered chic. And it all costs very little in the long run… a lot less than a new wardrobe.
Are you tired of buying new clothes? Or do you still enjoy shopping for clothes? How do you make the most of the clothes you own? Do you have one item of clothing that you absolutely love? Please share your thoughts below!
I used to love shopping but these days it’s such hard work finding anything at all that could be described as ‘pretty’. There are so many ugly, dull clothes about. What is available in brighter colours is often badly made unless you can spend a fortune. I used to be spoilt for choice in M&S but now struggle to find anything at all I like. If money was no object I’d be fine but the state pension is nowhere near adequate enough for food let alone for clothes.
I’m hearing the same thing from so many women these days, both about how unattractive the clothes are and how expensive. I think it means we have to be very cautious and strategic with what we buy, and where we buy it. But this gives me a great idea! I think my next post might be about how to shop inexpensively or be creative with what we already have. Thank for the comment, and the inspiration.
I still love buying clothes but find they don’t fit the same as they used to. I tend to buy the same items over and over. But I do occasionally find a ‘trend’ piece or colour to update my look.
Good luck finding a bodyworker who’s used to training order women! I went to a gym and none of the personal trainers would work with me. As soon as I mentioned Osteoporosis and Arthritis they ran for the hills.
I now do chair yoga via zoom.
Eleanor, do you mean that your body has changed, or the manufacturers/shops where you used to shop have changed their construction? As for the bodyworkers/trainers, that’s quite disappointing! I think a good trainer should know how to work around those issues. But at least you’re getting in the chair yoga, which is great. I don’t know where you are located, here are a couple of sites, YouTube pages that might help:
https://www.arthritisaction.org.uk/exdirectory/free-virtual-exercise-classes/
https://youtu.be/hEu–9lGdLk?si=_A4HX5XXJyFe4DDK
This woman has some great videos!!
https://youtu.be/ku7YdLflbvM?si=DHfrhppjs2WaGh12
Good lucktoyou and thanks for writing.
Andrea
I have clothes in 2 locations, my apartment in Switzerland where I’m based most of the time and my house in the UK where I visit a few weeks of the year. Any clothes I no longer want to wear in Switzerland go to the UK and anything there I don’t want I launder and give to the local thrift shops. I buy most of my clothes in sales as things in Switzerland are very expensive.
Hi Linda,
Sounds like a great plan. (I lived in Switzerland for six months way back when, and it was expensive then too. Now it’s even more so, as I hear.) Thanks for commenting. I appreciate it.
Andrea
The current clothing styles leave a lot to be desired. I try to re-style my favorite pieces instead of buying new unless it’s something I really love.
I have a linen tunic that I’ve had for years and it’s still stylish. Spending a bit more initially will pay off.
I agree – there seems to be a trend toward sameness or lots of skin exposure, both of which don’t work for a lot of us these days. I love the idea of re-styling what we have, which is what I try to do as well. And as for quality, that is so true. My favorite and best pieces are the ones I chose carefully and spent a little more on. Thanks for writing. I really appreciate the comments.
I love shopping! However my budget is not allowing for much. My favorite look is shorts or jeans depending on season. Yes even as 70 year old I wear shorts! New tops make me feel like I have a new outfit. TJ Max and Marshall’s are my favorite places to shop.
We just got a new Marshall’s in our neighborhood and it’s getting great reviews. You can find a lot of wonderful things there if you do a little searching. Thank you for this reminder. I appreciate your taking the time to write.
Andrea