Have you given your legacy any thought? Do you want to leave money to a favorite non-profit or educational foundation? Do you want to make life easier for your children and grandchildren or perhaps help them with higher education or debts? Perhaps your legacy may not be monetary, so you are giving thought to other ways you want to be remembered.
Last year my oldest son gave me a gift for my birthday that turned out to be not only a gift to me, but a special gift for him, his brother, for their children, and hopefully for their grandchildren. Every week over the course of a year I was sent a question about myself and my life. I had the option of writing an answer to that question or making up a different question. My son saw every response and any pictures I posted to add impact to my story.
This was so fun! I got to share stories I had not thought about for years. Some of my favorite questions covered the following topics:
When my year was up, I reviewed all my answers, added a few more questions and pictures, and sent the package to be composed into a book. I love my book!
This project was especially important to me because I want my grandchildren to have a sense of who their grandmother is as a girl/woman, mother, wife, and professional. I realize and am sad that I did not ask my parents more about their lives. Although they shared some stories, I feel like I really did not know them well except in their role as my mother and father.
Even sadder to me is that I did not know three of my grandparents at all. They were deceased before I was born. I have memories of my maternal grandfather, however, and they are precious. I would have especially loved to hear stories about my grandmothers. I know one of my grandmothers owned several farms. I have lots of questions about that – everything from her role in running the farms to how, or if, it affected her marriage.
My gift came through a company calledStoryworth, but you do not need a special program to come up with stories about your life. You can do this yourself. Several Sixty and Me articles discuss journaling, for example.
Now that my memories book is in print, I am thinking about a second book with answers to other questions that I think are important for my children and grandchildren to know:
It is my opinion that the more we know about a person, the better we understand what drives their choices. That can lead to increased respect, honor, and even love.
Not everyone likes to write just as not everyone will be able to leave assets to their heirs, but we certainly can leave something. Perhaps, if you have the equipment, you could create an audio recording. If you have a smartphone, video and audio recording is quite easy.
As my mother was failing and we were closing out her apartment, she would tell us stories about some of the things that were special to her, especially her jewelry. She has been gone for many years but objects that previously had no meaning now sometimes bring tears and other times smiles. As I put one of her bracelets on my arm, I remember her story and say a silent, “thank you” and blow her a kiss!
Whatever method you choose, please pass along the stories that make you unique, and I guarantee they will bring joy to your family for generations.
Have you given your legacy any thought? What have you done to pass along your legacy? Do you have a unique idea of how to pass along your legacy to share with others?
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I was given Storyworth as a birthday gift from my son and girlfriend this year and it is feeling a treasured gift already! Not only is it great to be creating a legacy for my family to enjoy in the future, the wide-ranging questions are giving me the opportunity to reflect back on my own life journey to this point here in the present. So a win-win for everyone!
Tis is a wonderful, personal legacy idea which I will embark on. I have spent a lot of time (and money) creating a family history on Ancestry.com but this is much more personal and more for family consumption, rather than the wide public. I have estranged myself from one son and his family, so one day if he ever gets to read my story, he may have more understanding of my reasons.
This article brought a smile to my face because I just finished my Storyworth book/story and gave it to my two sons last Christmas, 2023. I was excited every Monday awaiting my question and immediately began to think about my response. When the book was done and published, I honestly was a little sad because I was no longer receiving a question on Monday mornings! The finished product was beautiful and my son’s were so excited to begin reading. I have tried many times to encourage others to use this project to share memories with their family members. It’s a GREAT way to share someone’s past before it’s too late.
What a great idea. I have written a small book about a significant 30 years of my life but not all of the growing up years and early work life. Maybe I should use your idea to capture those missing parts.