The One Resolution That I Will Continue to Live By in 2024
A couple of years ago, I found myself in a phase of life that I considered to be stressful. I had recently made the decision to retire and was transitioning into that new schedule. My husband and I were building a second home at the beach which was very exciting but also making us nervous – it had become a bigger project than we had expected.
Additionally, I had two grandchildren who were diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes – and for anyone who lives with that in themselves or their kids or grands, you know that it’s a life changing diagnosis.
I had also just turned 60 which really had me reflecting.
There was a lot happening – some really good and some not as great. And my anxiety level, which is always elevated, was high.
I made the decision that summer to work on the practice of being present.
And being present is the one resolution that I will continue into 2024. It has been life changing.
Why Is Being Present Such a Game Changer?
The answer is simple.
Not being present robs us of experiencing the joy in the moment.
I realized that in my 60 years of life, I had very rarely been present in my life. That saddened me. I’ve had so much joy in my life. Trips with my husband, playing with my sons, cooking with my grandchildren, time with friends, and the list goes on.
In 99% of those moments, I was thinking or worrying about something that had ZERO to do with that moment in time.
And, what’s even worse, I was often worrying about something that wasn’t ever even going to happen!
This had to stop!
What I’ve Learned After Doing This for Two Years
This Is Not Easy!
Working on this was a constant effort, at first. I knew going in that worry and anxiety had ruined many of the moments in my life, but I had no idea really how prevalent it had been until I began holding myself accountable.
And, I’d been doing it for 60+ years! Now, I just require a gentle reminder to myself to be present when I catch my mind wandering. Although, if I’m honest, I’m still gently reminding myself more than I’d like to be!
My Self-Awareness Increased
On this side of 50, being self-aware is the best thing that we can do for ourselves.
We aren’t going to necessarily magically shed our negative core beliefs and our anxiety. But being self-aware can allow us to understand where our fears and anxieties are coming from, that we will be okay, and give us the courage to move forward in finding our joy and following our dreams at this stage of the game!
I’ve Become TRULY More Grateful
I say “truly” because I think a lot of times we are encouraged to find things to be grateful for and we “name” them but don’t “feel” them.
In being present, I feel them. In the moment.
I love more than almost anything, spending time with my grands. Previously I would be with them and would be worrying about countless different things that had zero to do with what was going on. Or, I’d worry about the boys wrestling and getting hurt. Or, what we were going to do for dinner. Or, when Mom and Dad were going to get back and if they’d be safe. Or, or, or……
Now, I take a minute to revel in their laughter. Or watch the boys wrestle and know that they will, in all likelihood, be just fine and am grateful that they are brothers but also friends. I listen when my grandson tells me all of the things that I need to know about Minecraft and Fortnight and am grateful that he is sharing his world with me. I play catch in the driveway with the four-year-old and am grateful that I am able to move my body even though my back may hurt a bit.
A Few Easy Ways to Get Started
- When taking a walk, gardening, or just walking out of your door in the morning when you wake up, take your earbuds out. Listen to the sounds of the birds, the children playing, the people talking. Look at the definition of the green trees against the blue sky. The colors. The beauty.
- As you’re walking, exercising, or moving in any way, think about your body and consider all that it can still do! I complain constantly about my aching back but when I stop and really think about it, my body can still do so so much. When I really take the time and stop to consider it, I am so truly grateful.
- Turn the TV off when you’re eating. Really taste your food.
- Carve out 20 minutes of quiet time and reflect and journal on a topic.
Small ways of practicing being present are infinite.
My word for 2024 is “presence.”
Let’s Have a Conversation:
What are some ways of being present that you could start practicing in your daily life? Have you done this before? Do you tend to zone out instead of being present when out and about?
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It’s easy on days off but harder in normal life as I’m working 30hrs pw plus studying for a Masters. I enjoy drawing and that is one of the best ways to be present and in the moment. Other than that, I agree: needs constant practice in order to be aware of tension in my body and release it, to ensure I don’t forget to take a lunchbreak, to consciously reflect on the beauty around me. I go for walks in a forest a few times a week and wonder if you have any recommendations for this? It’s easy to get caught up in “solving problems” and ruminating while walking. I try to look around me and focus on appreciating the green and sound of my footsteps etc but sometimes hardly possible.
Hi Ingrid! There are definitely times in my life when there are stressors going on that make drawing myself back into the present and away from worrying more difficult. Setting aside time in your day dedicated specifically to worrying or “solving problems” might help – time where you allow yourself to think about those things. For my walks, it helps me to have an audio book that I’m super into. I take about 5 minutes on my walks to look around, appreciate the sounds, sights etc and then for the rest of it I listen to my book. Let me know if that helps and feel free to email me at Leslie@lifebalanceafter50.com anytime along the way.
How does one just flip the switch when stress and anxiety are robbing what should be fantastic times?
It takes effort, for sure. And it’s ongoing but has become easier the more I’ve done it. It’s not a “switch flip” – it’s more of an “I’ll think about that later – right now I’m going to immerse myself in this joyful moment and take it in.” Even if you’re able to do it for 30 seconds at the outset, that’s something!
Thank you so much Lesley. My word for the 2024 was first peace of mind however I think being present covers what I need. I am kind of exausted from a lot of worry, negative focus and loss in 2023 so in 2024 I will be present and enjoy the small moments. Thank you for a wonderful article.
Annette, it amazed me how HARD it being present was, at first. Keep at it. It will become easier the more you practice it. Feel free to reach out anytime along the way! You got this!
Love this article. It is a struggle for me to be present.
I get that. It has been real work for me to adapt this habit and there are still days when it is harder than others.
Very well said and so much to think about with this article. Since I no longer work, I have time for the “little” things in life such as watching the sunset outside my patio window; or realizing that Spring is arriving when I see the first sign of daffodil bulbs poking through the ground. Taking walks among the beautiful-majestic trees. These wonders of nature were always there, but I was too busy wrapped up in the everyday hustle to take notice. What a shame, but it is never too late to make up for lost time and focus on what is truly important. The wonders of life!
I couldn’t love this comment more, Joyce. We are at a point in our lives where we can take the time to notice the seemingly small things which are really such GREAT things! Thank you!