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Have You Turned into a Lazy Old Lady?

Is it activity that keeps us young, or is it something else? Personally, I don’t believe it’s physical activity that keeps us young. There are some days when it can make us feel much older. You know what I mean; those days when everything aches, especially your knees!

But I do believe, most strongly, that keeping our brains active and running on all cylinders, keeps us away from the stereotype of the lazy old lady.

We All Know the Power of the Mind

We can create whatever we choose by changing the way we think, our mindset, our language and our attitude.

We can change the way we speak about others and ourselves. In fact, being careful with our language when we talk about ourselves is crucial.

Listen to what you say about yourself and when you recognise it as negative, start reframing.

Stocktake

If you constantly use the “I’m not enough” talk… I’m too fat, I’m too old, I’m not smart, I had no education, I don’t look as good as all my friends… STOP. This is your low self-esteem talking and you need to pull it up by the bootstraps.

If We Are Intent on Becoming Old, That’s What Will Happen!

It’s a process which involves:

  • Closing your mind
  • Acceptance of how things are
  • Dressing like your own granny
  • Refusing to look at anything new
  • Refusing to admit that this is not what you had in mind for ageing

Change in our mental ability is expected and accepted as we age, but it doesn’t necessarily mean deterioration.

Take Control of Your Mind, Not Just Your Body

If you exercise regularly, be it dancing, walking, weightlifting, running marathons, whatever, well done of you. Keeping physically active helps your brain to keep ticking over.

I think we all know that a healthy body is a healthy mind, and we must all mentally stimulate ourselves to stay sharp and alert.

There are plenty of things you can find to do here on Sixty and Me. Plus a few other things which you may not have added to your repertoire. Yet.

How about trying one or more of these?

  • Enjoy a daily puzzle or crossword. Did you know there are six common types of crosswords?
  • Choose mental arithmetic rather than using the calculator. Use your fingers if needed.
  • Read more. Go to the library and become friends with the Librarian or join an online (or local, pandemic permitting) book club. Or even start a book club with your circle of friends!
  • Stretch your mind further with bridge or chess or computer games. Lumosity is a favourite!
  • Socialise – join a local choir or gardening club.
  • Start a course, or a day, evening or online class.
  • Go out more, especially to theatres and galleries.
  • Go back to work or start a new job.
  • Volunteer
  • Exercise for half an hour at least three times a week or take up speed walking. With weights!

Several years ago, I wrote a book called 25 Ways to a Happier, Healthier You and everything within the book is not only a plus for your physical health but is geared to expanding your mind.

So determine that you will take control of your mind and never become a lazy old lady.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you turned into a lazy old lady? Why do you think that is? What can you do to move away from that stereotype? Please join the conversation!

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Shirley

Afraid I have ☹️😂 but do have days can be quite active! Walk the dog daily but must admit enjoy doing nothing most of the time!!!

Winifred Kovacik

When I read about women age 63 keeping active – I think, of course. This is younger than my daughter who hikes ten miles with a group of women in a large city, showing them points of interest. For me – almost 30 years older, there are many, many volunteer activities needing people. Physical limitations set in and some day time TV keeps me informed of world happenings. Sending notes & cards and telephone chats are appreciated by everyone.

Linda

I don’t allow myself to watch TV during the day, daytime TV is mind numbing. My brother and his wife are 73, they retired at 59 and all they have done since is watch TV. If it gets switched on at breakfast time then they’re not going anywhere. They never go to the cinema, local theatre or even the local parks, it’s just a wall to wall diet of TV.

I’m fortunate to have a number of museums and galleries within walking distance of me, so I buy a museums pass every year and it lets me go to exhibitions for free. I also take online courses in IT / online media things, also German and French as I’m in a German speaking part of Switzerland.

My next thing is applying to volunteer in a food parcel project, I have found one nearby where people speak English.

As I’m now 63 I want to keep challenging myself mentally for as long as possible.

Jannie

IF you sit idle you’ll be like an old car sitting in the garage never used, guess what, you’ll seize up. Keep moving however small, whatever it is that gets you up! Starts small and work up according to your health and fitness levels. I got a Fitbit and just doing house work I was up more than I thought.

Linda

My late father used to say this about older people seizing up. He never had a car in his lifetime and walked everywhere or used public transport.

Karen Jennings

Oh let’s see! I have started back to work- full time as an Immigration Specialist at a university. This was an opportunity I was not going to pass up! Yes, my parish life keeps me busy so I need to reschedule & reinvent myself. All in good time!

The Author

Penelope Jane Whiteley is the self-appointed Queen of Aging Disgracefully. A writer, international speaker, clothes designer, stylist and traveller, she helps other women to live their lives on their own terms. Her courses include “Lose 10 pounds in 10 minutes,” “The Reboot,” “Just Write the Damn Book.” Find her on http://www.penelopewhiteley.com, Twitter, and Facebook.

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