For most of us – when we were younger – the holidays produced excited squeals and bright smiles and eyes shining with wide-eyed wonder. We marked off the days on the calendar, counting the sleeps until Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or whatever big day we couldn’t wait to arrive.
But, for many reasons, the holiday season can be difficult as we get older. A partner or parent or sibling is no longer with us. Our kids are grown and gone, live far away, or celebrate with their spouse’s family. Many of us struggle with health issues and don’t feel like getting out and dealing with the snow, crowds, and traffic.
We are alone.
And sometimes – even if we aren’t alone – we lose our sparkle and zest for decking the halls, stuffing stockings, and making all those memories happen. What we once enjoyed – and looked forward to – now seems overwhelming and exhausting. The holidays are a lot of work.
“I’m not putting up a tree this year,” one friend announced.
“I’ll be glad to get back into a normal routine after the holidays,” another woman said.
“I’m so done with Christmas,” I heard another say.
We’ve made the month of December such a big deal for decades – stressing ourselves to the breaking point with gifts and baking and cards and social obligations – that the holidays have lost their magic. Regardless of whether we are alone, or not.
So! Here are a few ideas for what you might do to enjoy – or survive! – December when you’d rather fast-forward and flip the calendar to January. Some activities you can do by yourself, when you really don’t feel like doing much at all…
Hopefully, you will think of other things to add to this list. As I have learned, once you take the first tiny step, it is easier to continue. One thing will lead to another and another and another…
I hope you find something on this list that fills your heart this holiday season.
Does the holiday season still excite you? Do you look forward to the holidays? What new or festive things might you do this year?
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I feel fortunate that I still love everything about Christmas! I go overboard with decorating, (I have 4 trees), baking (ok, I buy some of it), attending parties and more! I make sure to buy gifts for those less fortunate and am singing in a Christmas concert to raise money for the community. Yes, I feel fortunate and hope the holiday spirit will enter everyone’s hearts even though the world seems to be crashing and burning around us. It couldn’t hurt.
I love your spirit!
I love this so much! Great ideas to help with the holidays blues and blahs!
I’m glad you liked it! Thank you for reading!
I’m looking forward to it this year because last year my husband was wrongly told he would have to retire early and this threw our plans into disarray. We didn’t bother with a tree and had very little in the way of festive decoration, just touches here and there.
I’ve just got over a bad head cold but feel raring to go, can’t wait to decorate the tree on the 12th and make mince pies for my husband’s office.
This is a lovely article! So positive and inspiring to get into the holiday spirit! This is Christ’s birthday – rejoice in that, if nothing else!
Thank you! Happy holidays to you!
This year is the first year that I have little desire to decorate or get a tree for the holidays. I have myself and family all healthy thank goodness. I don’t know wether its the state of the world or the vitriol that’s thick in the air but Im definitely a big Bah Humbug this year. “Peace on Earth and goodwill towards all ” seems like such an antiquated ideal at the moment.
I feel the same way – I have to try to be festive for my grandchildren but it’s hard
Kimy, I feel the same about the state of the world. Also, my husband of almost fifty years died in August. Thanksgiving was hard. Having a low-key Christmas Eve with a few relatives.