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The Importance of Having Millennials and Gen X’ers in Your Life After 60

By Angela Page December 11, 2022 Family

Many of us have at least one younger person in our lives. Whether this is a friend or a relative, here are 5 reasons why you should hang with younger people:

  • They help you stay current with social, cultural and political trends.
  • They increase your energy and positive attitude. Being around younger people with future hopes and dreams can be infectious.
  • Anyone 10-30 years younger should still be around when you’re in your 80s and beyond.
  • Gain a surrogate son or daughter, especially if you’re childless or if your own kids are emotionally or physically distant. Some younger folks crave a mentor and benefit of your life experiences.
  • Social security! They’re paying for it. It’s in your interest to help younger people lead productive lives and pay taxes.

Finding Common Ground

The Gen Xer’s (born 1965-1976) seem to be closer to Boomers in cultural references where you can usually communicate easily and find common ground.

The Millennials (born 1977-1995), however, have a very different outlook, cultural tastes, humor and references. If you have Millennial children, you probably know the score.

There are similarities with Millennials and Boomers, though. Both generations are tending towards freelancing, part-time work and self-employment. This is a new phenomenon which also provides a bridge between generations.

The age difference seems to disappear when there are common interests, opinions and sense of humor, and that helps you relate as peers.

I have a writer friend in her mid-70s who attends a horror and Sci-fi movie Meetup with millennials and Gen X’ers. She loves their all night parties, and is matriarch of the group, advising them on their love lives.

My mother-in law, from her 70s to her 90s, maintained close friendships with a group of young antique dealers. A dollhouse collector, she was a lively, energetic personality who drank a lot of beer with those youngsters. They were devastated when she passed.

I belong to a digital sketch production collective with a talented group of 20- to 40-year-olds. With their collaboration, I wrote and produced two digital sketches this past year that aired on the site Funny or Die.

Where and How to Hang

The site Meetup is an excellent place to find groups of younger and diverse members. Consider groups that focus on fitness, film, books, arts and music.

You can also look for volunteer opportunities in your community that attract a diverse crowd. Book clubs are another avenue, although mainly consisting of women, they draw a range of ages.

When you do hang with younger people, try to not lecture-reminisce about the good old days unless you’re asked to. I catch myself, all the time, making references to an old TV show, song or a musical group. I preface it, “before your time” and ensure it’s relevant and relatable.

You should stay away from talk about health or anything ‘aging’ related. Also avoid money discussions. You may be in a very different financial situation than younger folks just starting out.

Pace yourself if you’re taking part in a physical activity, and don’t be ashamed to limit your movements. Usually, they are in far better shape than you.

Listen and learn some of their lingo. You’ll hear expressions like, ‘lit’ (drunk), ‘bae’ (significant other), ‘fleek’ (good), and new meanings for old terms like ‘hipster.’

I was caught unaware at a party when told to stop talking and freeze for the “Mannequin Challenge” where someone takes a group photo and posts it online.

Working with and Leading Younger Teams and Reporting to a Younger Person

Until a year ago, I managed teams of collectors across the globe. At one point, I managed staff from age 20 to 70 in one team. Team synergy was a challenge, but became possible after leveraging strengths and understanding each person’s expectations and goals.

Hanging on to those Millenials was tough but was made possible when they felt challenged, appreciated and in tune with the team/corporate strategy.

The Millennials are tech savvy, resilient and nomadic. They have different expectations, need to feel appreciated, and believe in corporate social responsibility. I often joke that the Boomers generally didn’t care about what their companies were up to as long as they got their paychecks and pensions.

If your younger manager is smart, they will draw on your expertise and experience. Younger managers may be threatened, though, when they realize you have a treasure trove of skills and tribal knowledge.

I reported to a Gen X’er who was savvy and sought my advice and counsel. I was ready for a career change, but she had a longer runway than me. I was determined to help her succeed. She is the best boss I ever had.

A Richer Life Experience and Friends to End

Having a circle of friends and colleagues of a range of ages has enriched my life. I am thrilled when they seek out my advice or if they just want to hang out.

There’s a chance some of these younger folk will seek me out even in my advanced years. Hopefully, I can say, “Even though many friends are dead, I have others that are very much alive!”

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you like to spend time with younger people? What contribution do you make to the lives of younger people and what do they add to yours?

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Heather

I belong to a woman’s Bible study with different generations. The leaders intentionally set up tables for us to mix together. It is wonderful to hear their opinions and perspectives on different subjects we talk about. We can learn so much from them, just as can from us. It is refreshing to see how they think differently than our generation, and they are always eager to hear our take on things. It is a wonderful way to interact and get to know our young people in a deeper way.

Jennifer

Yes! Growing up, I watched how my grandparents had many friends of all ages and their younger friends were especially cherished. We have many friends of the millennial generation and our interests and passions blend beautifully and we learn from each other and just have fun!

Barbara

I see myself in this post…I am a “young” 76…. I have friends of all ages! I embrace their friendships! My 51 year old son is a Gen x… we are very close 😎❤️
All of these friendships add to my happiness and possibly to my good health… I am so grateful

Pam

I really enjoyed this article. I do have a group of friend with different age ranges. I feel they will be there for me. Life is great with friends.

The Author

Angela Page is a writer and producer. One of her published titles is “Suddenly Single Sylvia,” a novella and dating guide. Her award-winning comic romance, "Matched in Heaven,” and short comedy, “Unplugging Aunt Vera,” were released in 2015. Angela divides her time between Boca Raton and Los Angeles. Please visit her website here http://www.angelapage.net

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