Feeling anxious, nervous, or overwhelmed? I’ve got good news for you! There’s a way to calm down but NOT the way you may be thinking about.
It has to do with… ACCEPTANCE!
Stick with me! Let me explain.
You’re anxious, unsettled and obsessed. You might be lying awake worried, filled with fear. You may be asking yourself:
You are not alone! Many people suffer from anxiety for all kinds of reasons.
According to Forbes Health contributor Jessica Booth, “Every year, millions of Americans struggle with symptoms of anxiety and anxiety disorders… [It is] the most common mental illness in the U.S.” Booth goes on to say that anxiety “can feel isolating, go hand-in-hand with depression and even impact your physical health.” A US Census Bureau’s survey discovered that 29.3% of adults experiencing anxiety were between 50 and 64 and 20.1% were 65+.”
By nature, when faced with something fearful or negative in our lives, we resort to one of these “F” words: fight, flight, freeze. We immediately want to lash out and challenge the problem. Or we just leave, ignore, or repress the difficulty. Or we become numb and avoid feeling anything.
In other words, we RESIST what’s happening. So, when difficult experiences come our way, we quickly and naturally respond with resistance. But here’s the thing, “resistance leads to suffering because it is essentially an antagonistic way of relating to life,” as stated by Eckhart Tolle and Kim Eng in Resist Nothing.
The more you try to resist the anxiety and fear, the worse it gets until you are totally preoccupied, and it’s all you can think about.
Rather than denying, trying to forget or get away from the negative experience, your first step is to embrace and accept it. When you truly allow and acknowledge reality and the fear flooding your mind and heart, freedom begins to take hold and ease your mind and emotions.
Here’s a way to accept and let go of the anxiety, worry, and obsession.
Remember, you always have a choice. Letting go is a decision you can make anytime. It’s up to you.
Acceptance is always the first step to overcoming anxiety. From there you can learn how to manage anxiety and even become anxiety free.
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Are you afraid of something in your life? What is it and how does this make you feel? Do you feel crippled by anxiety? Have you found ways to manage your anxiety?
Hello, Jane! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Anxiety can be so crippling, and I will try your ideas.
Thank you Dr. Kennard for this informative and helpful article. I believe that managing anxiety is a daily activity that includes all three spheres- spirit, mind and body
Pat: I’m grateful that you found the article helpful. Yes, managing anxiety is a daily challenge that involves the whole person: spirit, mind and body. Each aspect/sphere influences and interacts with the other. Thanks for highlighting this reality.
Fear and anxiety are two quite different things. This posting does not seem to recognize that..
Chris: Thanks for highlighting the role of fear in anxious states. Identifying fears, I believe, is an important foundational step to managing anxiety.