In many ways, senior dating is like dating at any other age. We still want to find someone to share our dreams with. We are still looking for a partner who can support and love us. We still have many options for where to meet people – from online dating to speed dating to simply saying hi to someone on the bus.

On the other hand, there are plenty of reasons to think that our deeper motivations change as we get older.

What Do Older Women Want?

As young women, we are primarily interested in finding someone who can be a good provider – oh, and good looks (genes) didn’t hurt either! Now that our kids have left the house, shouldn’t our priorities shift? Shouldn’t we be more interested in finding someone who shares our values, rather than someone with a lot of money?

Truthfully, I’m not sure. I know that, “logically,” we should look at relationships differently in our 50s and 60s, but, the truth is that many of us don’t. I still know plenty of older women who are looking for James Bond – attractive, daring and exciting. I also know many women who just want someone who makes them feel special.

Of course, there is no “right” or “wrong” answer here. When it comes to senior dating, we all want slightly different things. At the same time, I’d love to know what the patterns are. Are there certain things that tend to become more important to us women as we get a little older? Do we tend to care less about looks and more about values? Or, do we still want the same things as we wanted in our 20s?

This is where you come in. With 100,000+ Boomer women in our community, we’re in a great position to answer one of the universe’s great mysteries: what do (older) women want?

Please take a few seconds to join the conversation below. I’d love to know what you think!

Have you tried senior dating? Have your dating priorities changes as you have gotten older? In which ways have they changed? What is the single most important thing that you look for in a partner now that you are in your 50s or older? Please join the discussion.