One of the topics that endlessly fascinates me is how solo women of “a certain age’” are going to live healthy and happy lives in retirement.
Many single women prefer solitude and want to live alone. Others crave living with a crowd of like-minded people of all ages. They want dogs, cats, kids… the whole human experience!
Some women prefer to stay where they have always lived, in a big family houses in the suburbs. Others are perfectly happy to pull up roots and settle in a small urban apartment.
Many women love the idea of retirement communities filled with lots of people and activities. Others can’t wait to rush home, shut the door behind them and snuggle up with their dog or cat. We are all unique!
Right now, I am single and I live alone. Personally, I have always had a bit of a fantasy about living in a big house with a community of 10-12 like-minded women. Well to be precise, women with shared values. The vision that most resonates with me is not a Golden Girl “roommate” situation where everyone has a bedroom in a big house.
I envisage something bigger than that. I see a very tastefully converted apartment building where each woman has a tiny personal studio living space with a combined living/sleeping room, a small kitchen and ensuite bathroom. It would feature simple lines and very minimalist design!
Then I visualise a huge kitchen with multiple stoves and fridges and freezers and a dining room with a huge table or two for shared meals. And, there would be a big cosy room with sofas you can sink into to watch movies and chat about things that matter.
This would have to be an affordable rental model because who is going to give a 65-year-old woman a mortgage?
Since many women over 60 are out of work and looking for ways to support themselves over the next few decades, there would be a co-working space. Here, workshops could be held by outside or inside experts for women over 60. It could even be open to the wider community!
Topics might include how to launch a blog… or how to start an Etsy or Amazon shop. It could offer ways to start a consultancy business based on one’s areas of expertise. I don’t think this innovative rental model is going to be attractive to developers, but, there are innovators out there I am sure!
There are not a lot of converted nunneries on the rental market these days so the other option in a community of Tiny Houses. They are popping up all over the world and a couple really look fascinating.
To start, here is a link to 15 different Tiny House Communities all around the United States. Some offer rentals, but most involve purchasing a piece of land or paying for the construction of your personal home.
You can expect at minimum of $100,000 investment. Check out these candy colored tiny houses – and I promise some of you will want to have one tomorrow!
Another tiny house that caught my eye was The Boomer. It features, classic lines, elegant design and is only 24 x 8 feet in size. There are hundreds of other examples of tiny houses, you just must be willing to take downsizing to a whole new level and truly let go of 99% of your worldly possessions.
Even AARP has got in on the discussion about tiny houses. They talk about how very small spaces can offer all kinds of opportunity for older people. They are cheaper for a growing demographic of people who are not working and the maintenance and upkeep are reduced.
You can also build or buy a tiny home with ecologically sound features and this should appeal to cities and towns looking for affordable and environmentally sustainable housing options.
In the UK, there is a community called OWCH (Older Women’s Co-Housing), formed by a group of women over 50, who created their own community by investing in a purpose-built block of flats in London. This video explains what they have accomplished, but, again this was a model that required a financial investment from each woman.
The world is shifting. Women over 60 are living longer, healthier and more independent lives. Many of us are perfectly happy being single but would love the friendship and security of living in community with other women.
What do you think? Can you imagine 12 Sixty and Me sisters living together?
Would you be interested in living in a community of like-minded women over 60s? What would that scenario look like? Would you like to live in a big house converted for a group of solo older women to live independently but together? Or would you prefer a tiny house in a community of like-minded women. Or, would you like to stay where you are? Let’s have a chat!
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I live on Cape Cod, the eastern most part of Massachusetts. I am interested in the idea of aging together. I would like to explore the idea of living where I am and having a separate gathering space. I am still working so would like to interact with others still working. Or getting a space for separate units but communal living. There are a lot of old hotels here, and some are being renovated for retirement living so might be an option for us.
Great conversation! I’m 54 and very interested in this topic and living in community —sustainable and connected communities.
I absolutely love this concept and my wheels are spinning about creating something like this on Vancouver Island. 😀
I have a large home in Denver, CO and want to renovate to create a “Golden Girls” living situation, but I have no idea how to do this. I’d love to be part of this conversation!
Hi Shira and friends!
I am a late career (behavioral) health care provider interested in joining or co-creating a positive community of women.
Would anyone like to dialogue about how we might support each other in living more fully in community?
Best,
PH
Hi Shira,
I am interested and would like to open the conversation about creating a “Golden Girls” community.
Feel free to email me at pholcombphd@gmail.com.
Best,
Peggy
Hi ladies, I am in my 20’s. But after reading this article while also researching the growing number of women living their best lives, I hope this idea comes to fruition! Cheers to peace!
All My Best,
Destiny
It is 9/2/23 and Im wondering if this discussion is still current? I am curious about this possibility. I live in No Colorado, single and living alone for last 8 years. What’s up?