We all come to a stage in life when we ponder the possibility of moving to a new home. However, before committing to such a big step, consider what is driving this idea.
How many of us, during our working years, have dreamed of living in a mild climate and enjoying all life has to offer? Yet, as we age, the realities of such a decision come to the forefront. Practical questions like “Exactly where would I like to move” and “Can I afford it?” arise. These and other important questions need to be thoroughly addressed before forging ahead.
If you are a parent, your life changes significantly once the kids leave the house. Perhaps now the family home feels a bit too large for your needs. On the other hand, you may love your home and prefer to remodel it to meet your new situation. Such remodeling may need to include accessories like grab bars and handicap-accessible spaces if you plan this to be your “forever home.”
If health status drives thoughts of moving, you have many options to consider. First, can your existing home be retrofitted to accommodate your needs? If not, what are the housing options in the local area? You may be looking for one-level living, closer proximity to family or a location near critical healthcare facilities.
If you’re thinking of moving out of town, you probably will seek same things. However, a lack of familiarity with the new environment could mean you’ll need to spend more time finding the right fit at a price you can afford.
How will cost impact the decision to move or not? A complicating factor for retirees is they may still be getting used to living off their savings, pensions and social security. It may take a while to adjust to the new financial reality, so moving plans must be deferred.
On the bright side, it will be a excellent time to research various relocation sites. Many popular retirement destinations offer lower costs, like no state income tax.
Changes like retirement or an empty nest could naturally motivate a re-examination of what we want out of life. If your current living situation is satisfactory, staying put may make sense. Conversely, you may be ready for a change because of:
• A desire to be closer to family
• Divorce or becoming a widow
• Seeking a new location or mode of living (e.g. – city versus rural)
Even if making a move later in life seems like the right thing, it’s essential to consider some negative consequences.
The familiar rhythms of life get upended with a move, so it may take time to feel settled. Expect to feel some stress during this period. Take positive steps to relax, and remember to be patient.
Primary relationships undergo pressure during a move and the subsequent transition time. All parties in a move are struggling to adjust. Allow space for everyone to recalibrate at their own pace. Also, moving often means meaningful relationships evolve to the long-distance type. Making an effort to connect with old networks can help in the adjustment process.
Moving from an established location can trigger grief almost as strong as the death of a loved one. It will take time for the feelings to subside before the joys you sought in the new location are more apparent daily.
Moving in later years can open up a positive new phase in life. Understanding your motivations to move and preparing yourself for an adjustment period will decrease the transition time to get to your desired lifestyle.
To learn more about finding your new home later in life, check out my eBook at Living 50+.
Are you considering moving to a new location? What are you motivating factors? What would you be looking for in a new location? Do you think you would be able to adjust quickly to your new home and surroundings? Have you already inspected one or more possible places?
My husband of 40 + years died during the Covid Crisis. I’m an Amerucan living in Germany since 1977. Being widowed has changed everything. I don’t feel at home here. After visiting the US, I don’t feel at home there either! I want to start a new life for myself but the question is “where do I belong?” People say they envy my freedom. What they don’t understand us this freedom wasn’t by choice. Moving away and starting a new chapter won’t be the magic key to happiness. However, I realize now that happiness isn’t a place I move to – it’s a place that resides within me. A new location allows me to create my life with a fresh palette of people, in a new environment.
I am glad you realize Hyatt happiness comes from within. We have the same history wherever we live.
you sound like you have a really good head on your shoulders. i’m sorry for your loss, i can’t imagine how much that has already been to go through for you. i hope you find a nice place to land. i often think about taking in a roommate about my age … i’m in a great location. i live humbly, but comfortable in a lovely climate … hirbey@yahoo, if you’d like to explore that…plz i.d. urself as someone on Sixty + in the subject line, then i’ll know where i met you and what i was thinking in reaching out to you.